What Is Interdependence?

Addiction is a psychological state in which a person becomes mentally attached to another person. This is by no means a positive thing.

Why can’t you make decisions independently? Why should everything be under your control, and if something drips between your fingers, will your whole world crumble? Why can’t you be alone? We usually have questions and frustrations about this style towards people who are closely dependent.

“Freedom means responsibility; that is why most men are afraid of it. ”

-George Bernard Shaw-

The following things describe the features and usage of a close relative:

Uncertainty

A dependent person lives for others, abandoning himself. He relies on the decision made by another, cares too much about the opinions of others, and underestimates himself.

For relatives, other people are more important than themselves. They always think of things like “what would he do in my situation?” or “how would he act now?”. Such people do not know how to think for themselves.

Control

As we have already said, a close relative always needs someone else to make a decision for themselves. Because they are unable to live without acting in this way, they become controlling and manipulative so that they can keep other people under their control. They don’t want anyone to leave their side – they can’t do without other people!

Self-doubt

A dependent person is unable to face the world or life alone. He doubts he would not be able to live without being mentally dependent on another person.

Their insecurities and fears make decision making impossible. Facing life without a shoulder to rely on scares them so much that they are always trying to find someone who could fulfill this task.

How to overcome addiction?

What can we do if we feel that another person is the center of our whole lives, the reason for our existence, and that without that person we would not survive? Can we get over interdependence? The answer is yes.

First ask yourself why you feel your own life would not be valuable. Why is it impossible for you to rely on yourself? Look inside for an answer to the question that makes you feel worse than others, think about it and think about whether it is true. You are no less valuable than someone else.

As a close-knit person, phrases like “I don’t know,” “I can’t,” or “he or she would know how to do this,” contaminate your thoughts. If such thoughts surface, fight them.

No one knows or knows everything. However, there is something each of us can do: learn. Don’t try to find help for every little thing, don’t always rely on another person. Try to be independent.

Many situations confuse us, but this is what happens to each of us! It is good to be able to cope with such situations successfully on our own. Self-sufficiency is very important. We cannot always rely on others.

Recognize your strengths and use them. Work with them so that you learn to value yourself and be independent of others.

Look for reasons to be happy every day. Don’t like others as your role model. Everyone is unique. Make life your own.

Stay strong. Yes, it’s awkward, but not impossible. Move forward. There will not always be a person near you to rely on and when that happens, will the whole world collapse on your shoulders? No. You are strong, smart and responsible.

You don’t have to reach out to any other person. You don’t need anyone else to survive. Live your own life, value yourself, be unique. Don’t let your own life depend on anyone other than yourself.

Are you closely dependent? If you are, I hope these and other tips help you. Addiction to others can be hard to get rid of, but it’s worth it – experience the freedom that comes with getting rid of addiction .