Silent Suffering, What A Human Thing
Many of us out there behind the screens do so. We hide in our little shells to suffer alone, quietly, without anyone noticing. We show up bold and pretend to be okay, when in reality we are endlessly fighting inside us. Until we finally break and we can no longer continue in the same way.
We are social beings, and yet most of us suffer alone. We prefer to share laughter and good moments with others.
We stick to routines with the people around us, because that’s when we feel in control of something. As if nothing ate us from within.
Both psychologists and psychiatrists are well aware that trauma and silence almost always go hand in hand. It is not easy to talk out loud about something that is hurting us.
There are two reasons for this: we are afraid to be convicted and, above all, to show our vulnerability. For in a ruthless world, strong personalities win. Those who give their all do not choose, but rather are the heirs of optimism and self-confidence.
It is overwhelming to realize that in today’s world, suffering is still a disgrace. Unfortunately, our world can accommodate a lot of people with depression who are still untreated. In fact, the number of youth suicides has risen to alarming readings.
Let’s think about it for a moment.
Why you should NOT suffer quietly
It’s not long since a well-known magazine published a personal letter from a woman who no longer wanted to go on with her life. The woman had just become a mother for the third time and she couldn’t even get out of bed. As strange as it may sound, nearly 80% of the comments were purely derogatory, even crossing the line of cruelty.
Postpartum depression is still taboo today. If a woman experiences postpartum mood swings, she immediately begins to stigmatize in the eyes of others.
Society expects him to be perfect and happy. So unfortunately many mothers go through all this behind closed doors, in a private and almost cruel way. And all this just for the sake of world criticism.
The same is happening for young people. Boys and girls are exposed to bullying, suffer quietly, and do not ask for help. They hide in loneliness and in their rooms, the only place where they feel safe. However, that is not enough.
We must act before it is too late, e th as our will continue to deteriorate and our lives begin to feel useless.
6 reasons why we should stop suffering quietly
The first reason to stop quietly suffering is simple and obvious. Otherwise, suffering it as will continue. If you don’t take a step to ask for help, the pain will only get worse. In front of you is a long, repressive, destructive silence.
- The symptoms become even more prolonged. We cease to be human and become painful. The symptoms become much more complex.
- Negative thoughts become more effective. We are prisoners in our own, personal prison.
- There will come a time when social contacts become uncomfortable and we begin to avoid them. Hugs, affection, and kind words lose their meaning. We begin to look at all of that with suspicion and interpret it as a threat.
- Postponing a request for help complicates treatment.
- We remain ashamed. If we don’t take the first step, if we don’t allow ourselves professional help or communicate with a confidential person, we are only feeding the idea that trauma and suffering go hand in hand quietly.
Finding a connection as a cure
Suffering isolates us, but the connection with fellow human beings and ourselves is therapeutic. When we share our vulnerabilities and pain with the right person or professional, we immediately take two steps forward.
The first step is to stop sabotaging ourselves. No one decides to go through postpartum depression. No one chooses to be a victim of bullying or a slave to a traumatic past or lost childhood. And no one deserves to take care of himself so badly that he can no longer love himself.
Another thing we achieve is mental catharsis. Many people come to psychotherapy dressed in the armor of rage. In reality, they are just trying to hide their vulnerabilities.
Ultimately, however, therapy promotes reconciliation and a proper connection to the environment. Eventually, the chains placed around it will also gradually begin to loosen.
It is undoubtedly a slow, lengthy process. But we all deserve it: we deserve to stop suffering quietly and be with someone who understands and helps us.
Let’s think about it for a moment. Let’s get out of loneliness so we can be ourselves again without fear.
Last but not least, we must remember that suffering changes us. It will tame us until we become completely different people. We will stop being honest with ourselves. And that – it’s something that no one deserves.
