If You Feel Inner Peace, You Have Made The Right Decision

The peace within you shows that you have made the right decision. It may not be the right or most logical decision for other people to think. In fact, it may not be the best solution at all. But what is clear is that this decision will make you happy and will combine your values, your being and your feelings…

Sigmund Freud used to say that making decisions is like riding a racehorse. In it, the animal represents our instinctive, almost capricious emotional side. Then there is the rider – he is the one who holds the reins of reason, who steers and brakes. Which of the two wins the battle? In most cases, our fascinating emotional side is stronger in decision-making, with hundreds and hundreds of these competitions taking place every day…

Life is full of decisions. In fact, it takes a lot of time to practice a decision-making skill: coffee or tea, stairs or an elevator, calling or not playing, getting on a train or not getting up… Making a decision can give us the same feeling as if we were jumping into emptiness. Therefore, when we really have to do them, we need a sheer dose of courage and responsibility.

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There is no right choice, just a desire to be happy

Henry James wrote an excellent story called “The Jolly Corner”. In it, he introduced Spencer Brydon, a young man who, after gaining success and wealth in the United States, returned to his native England.
In the loneliness of a new, empty home, he begins to wonder if he made a good choice and whether his departure was the right decision. In the midst of all these doubts, his alter ego suddenly rises to the surface, his “second self,” showing him a little at once what he would have become if he hadn’t made that decision.

The question of whether we made the right decision or not is something that will always stay with us. As Henry James teaches us in his story, when we make a decision, we use our hearts first, but immediately followed by responsibility. We make use of our emotions, then our reason and, above all, our duty to be the architect of the paths we want to take.

There are not always the right decisions or neon-lit paths to show which of them will lead to happiness. The wisest decision is one that brings us peace that goes hand in hand with our conscience and that therefore encourages us to continue to make convergent decisions based on these things.

The ability to make wise decisions from the heart

We already know that when making a decision between the two options, emotions are like stars in the middle of a sea of ​​doubts. It is also good to know that the brain structure that emits the most light in this process is the almond nucleus.

Hundreds of connections leave the almond nucleus all over the brain. It is a finely tuned and fascinating structure that acts as a kind of guard, capable of evaluating all stimuli, conscious or unconscious thinking, experience, or event. After this analysis, the almond nucleus makes an evaluation, a decision that is carefully analyzed by the forebrain later.

Now that we know that many of our decisions are made through emotional channels, we now look at how these decisions can be a little wiser, more accurate, and more responsible.

Important issues in decision making

To be happy you need to be able to make decisions and step over the wall of fear. It is true that this is sometimes very difficult because by deciding to do some things we also decide to leave other things behind.

• When our hearts ask us to do something and fear emerges, we need to rationalize that fear and try to understand it. When we feel fear, we turn to reason, for it is logical and conscious thinking that must ask us to be courageous and break down those walls of fear.
• When your emotions tell you to choose a particular path, consider whether you are realistic. It’s a question you should ask yourself, not anyone else. If you think it could be feasible, if it makes you happy and you think it’s possible, don’t let anyone or anything stand in your way.

• Accept the possibility of failure. Accept and come to you with the fact that things may not go well. At the same time, however, you also need to understand that one option is not enough to find a path of happiness. It’s just one door that shows you a number of other possible paths.

The skill of being happy is being able to make decisions every day, listen honestly to the voice of your heart, accept future mistakes, and gradually find the best paths for yourself, paths to inner peace.