How To Identify Negative People
How can you identify a negative person and start noticing their behavior? There are many different stereotypes and misconceptions that can sometimes make you imagine that your own behavior is completely free from all negativity.
While there are people who wear negativity like some kind of flag and they are free to share it in everything they do and say, the truth is that we are all sensitive to becoming negative when we have a bad day.
That’s why we ask: what exactly do negative people do? It is important to be aware that these behaviors become more harmful as their recurrence and intensity increase and that negativity is not absolute and always occurs at different levels. But as you learn to recognize the nature of these behaviors, it is in your hands to try to avoid repeating them.
Talking evil about other people
People do this because of uncertainty, jealousy, or simply because there is nothing else to talk about. Negative people never stop analyzing other people’s behavior in a sharp way. They reveal secrets and judge other people in a binary system (good / bad, crazy / common sense, useless / brilliant). And they never do that to be helpful and to help with solutions, they just want to be right.
The fundamental difference between being negative and facing conflicts between individuals is that by doing the former, you are poisoning your environment and the people around you, and behaving fraudulently. If you don’t care about them, you should continue your journey without wreaking havoc.
Settling into routines that are neither encouraging nor motivating
Many people dream of having a job that brings them stability and comfort, but these two qualities create rigidity if they continue indefinitely. This can lead to a lack of empathy and communication, stale conversations, and rapid social condemnation and stereotypes.
Similar comfort can be generalized to a relationship: there may be a certain type of stability in your relationship, but that doesn’t mean it would enrich you. People who sit motionless in their eternal comfort are hypersensitive to the daily lives of others. We don’t use too much worn-out speech about the “comfort zone,” but remember that quality of life doesn’t mean the same thing as harmony.
Finding opinions, not information
When people look for opinions that reinforce their perspectives without even thinking about other ways of thinking, they fall into the power of a vision that belittles the world and the people within it.
Thinking in extremes is a hallmark of ignorance and a lack of exact identity; it is also a prelude to unbridled negativity that censors out anything that is not appropriate for that person. It is a basic mechanism of action in narrow-minded people who lack both individual and collective awareness of the environment in which they live. It is the definition of self through all other social, moral, and economic zeroing.
Isolation of oneself or lack of significant social relationships
Humans are social beings and when you try to isolate yourself from all others, you take off your own safety cover. Just because some social relationships no longer produce anything positive for you doesn’t mean you couldn’t add new people to your own social network. You can meet new people in new situations and maintain relationships that are still relevant to you.
The key to social well-being is anchoring and adapting: anchor yourself in meaningful relationships and adapt your own trajectory to new social circles with similar values and goals.
Great ego
There are a few obvious consequences to the great ego: lack of self-criticism, rigidity in close relationships, and seeking appreciation at the expense of self-improvement.
This results in negativity towards oneself and others. But people with a big ego don’t care; they still value disproportionately the work they do, and demand the same appreciation from others.
Hiding behind family and friends
Many people hide their shortcomings by blaming their family and friends. They justify their delay, rudeness, and empathy for their lack of ability by accusing awkward family relationships, which are not always true, and it does not justify their behavior anyway.
No one can argue that not everyone has to go through difficult childhood experiences, so it does not justify not taking responsibility for their own behavior and ignoring the opportunity to correct their own mistakes.
Focusing on things that cannot be changed
Negative people tend to pursue unattainable goals and ignore any more realistic goals that can act as a bridge to bigger dreams.
This often involves the need to justify oneself through a goal that is very difficult to achieve, which validates their situation in the eyes of others and guts into their self-image.
Excessive work
Excessive work does not mean a greater ability or sense of responsibility. It often refers to an inability to separate one’s own challenges or manage one’s own time properly. It has consequences, not only in your own work but also in your free time.
People who don’t have any free time at all, whose days are full of responsibilities they don’t like, tend to be prone to negativity. That’s why it’s so important to keep your agenda organized and in order so you can leave yourself room to breathe and gather strength.
