Approval Does Not Mean Adaptation
In many cases, we tend to suffer too much from situations that are not entirely under our control or decision-making power. And sometimes we have even more difficulty due to our own opposition to gaining acceptance of the situation that has happened than due to the negative fact itself.
It is true that emotions are absolutely necessary and it is not advisable to suppress them. Grief is our way of restoring balance and informing others that we are not well. Anxiety helps us protect ourselves from certain risks and dangers. Upset, on the other hand, prevents us from getting diseases.
Emotions, being flexible and adapting to the situation at hand, are very necessary and help us cope with many things. The problem arises when emotions have ceased to serve their original purpose and turn against us. It’s as if we’re kicking ourselves underfoot, and our feelings turn into our worst enemies.
Are we adapters?
Not at all. As the title of this article suggests: acceptance is not the same thing as adaptation. Many people think that if they don’t choose enough, if they don’t cry and scream and get angry at the world when something goes wrong, then they are adapting to the situation without mumbling and this is a weak person’s pattern of action. And in fact, this is quite a backward and reactionary way of dealing.
A weak operating model is to waste our energy and valuable time on something that is not under our control, something that we cannot shape. I strongly believe that emotions carry a lot of weight, but only up to a certain point. When you reach this point, your feelings become downright useless and useless.
In order to be happy and to find the purpose of our lives, it is essential and very important to have hopes, goals, passionate projects and dreams. We shouldn’t adapt to something if we don’t like it. We should try to change this. In the same way that if we want to own something very valuable, we need to pursue it and, if possible, find it and enjoy it.
Therefore, we are not talking about adaptation or adaptation. If you want something, you need to pursue it and also enjoy your journey to this destination. But the most important thing is to understand that no matter how hard I fight for something, it may end up going wrong due to factors beyond my control. And this is the moment when a concept called approval enters the game.
Life is not perfect
So what? It is not, never has been, and never will be. This is the core issue that we must accept. Acceptance means understanding that sometimes things are under our own control and sometimes they are not. And this is normal, it’s just a part of life. And it’s also a good thing, because if everything were perfect, we would never appreciate moments when they are pleasant and comfortable.
In order to enjoy profits, we must experience failures. So it’s very important to tell yourself: I’m trying to make everything work well and do everything I can and can. But if it still doesn’t help, it won’t fit anything. There are things that are not dependent on me and I will not be more upset about them than I have to. Other opportunities will hit me.
And it’s not enough to just repeat this to yourself. You have to believe it because it is the only existing reality. You will find thousands of obstacles along the way and you should accept this sooner or later. Accepting this will save you a lot of unnecessary suffering.
Learning acceptance…
The world is not always what you would like it to be: no matter how this might make you angry, sad, or anxious. Things are not always as you would like them to be. If you accept this, your emotional state will be much calmer and more relaxed, and this will allow you to see the situation clearly. You will not allow your emotions to control you and obscure your vision.
People don’t act based on your assumptions and expectations: everyone is an individual with their own mindsets and opportunities to do whatever they want. Leave in the past your expectations for others. Don’t expect anything from them. Let people simply surprise you with their actions and enjoy what they may have to offer you.
People make mistakes, just like you do: Try to correct your mistakes and try to get others to do the same. But don’t judge them or yourself for failure, because making mistakes is also part of the game of life. And thanks to mistakes, we end up being good at so many things.
Acceptance is the same thing as internalizing the fact that everything is fine exactly as it is and whatever needs to happen, it will simply happen. But we should always leave enough room for change and act so that we improve the situation with a calm and loving attitude focused on the future.
